Forgiveness

By writing these blogs, I am not trying to bore you with facts or overfill your head with information of things that you should do to build a better life for yourself. My goal is to give you some information about methods and techniques that I have used to help me become a better person and live a more positive life, which is a HUGE part of self care. Do you have to use them? Absolutely not. I'm just putting them out there so that someone may benefit from them. You don't have to use or try all of them. If they resonate with you, you will know. These are just some examples of things you may want to try. I mean, what could it hurt to try a couple? They can only make your life better, right? So, as we move into today's topic, forgiveness, I hope you will consider what I just said. Forgiveness...that is a BIG one!

Forgiveness can sometimes be a touchy subject. Sometimes, in certain situations, it can be difficult to forgive. Some may even think it impossible. One thing that I, personally, didn't realize is that to forgive someone isn't for them, but for you. You see, forgiveness tends to free your soul.

It was recently brought to my attention that someone that did something extremely hurtful years ago, wanted to apologize for their actions. This is something that literally affected my entire life and something that a lot of people would not be able to forgive. So, I sat and thoroughly thought about it, and you know what? I can forgive them. Why?

When you are living with a grudge, you constantly have a wall up. You are bitter and angry. You lose trust in others. You live daily with a heavy heart, which can cause blockages in you, spiritually. It keeps you from being able to live up to your full potential, which completely stunts your spiritual and emotional growth. With that being said, forgiveness is still a very difficult concept in some situations. I recently read a statement that might help with that..."You don't need to forgive the act, but there's power in forgiving the person."

This statement really hit home for me. It takes a big person to forgive when you have been hurt so deeply, when you have been so wronged. I sat down and really thought about this statement, and it occurred to me that I hurt myself, every day, just by letting things, that I cannot control, weigh on my heart and on my mind, by dwelling on things that others have done to me. In that situation, do you know who wins? THEM! It is my opinion that people who choose to hurt other people, have their own problems. It is their CHOICE to hurt others. So if they can live with what they have done, do you really think they are going to care if it has permanently affected your life or your mindset?...Nope.

It is also my opinion that everyone will have their judgment day when their time on Earth comes to an end. At this time, they have to answer for their wrongdoings. It is not my place to judge them. There is a much higher power for that. So, holding a grudge against someone, and holding onto the pain and anger, is something that only hurts me. Afterall, they were okay hurting me, lying to me, or doing me wrong. So, they aren't going to be bothered by how that made me feel.

With that being said, those feelings of hurt and anger can be released from your life. You have the opportunity to take your power back. How? Forgiveness. Forgiveness is not about forgiving the actions of others. If what they did was wrong, it's wrong...period! An immoral or wrong action cannot be made right or be made to be okay. Nothing can be done to make it acceptable, even apologizing.

Forgiving the person, however, is about you. This is sometimes made easier, if the person apologizes, depending on the action, and whether the action is going to continue to be repeated or not. Sometimes, it is just hard, especially when the action is evil or trust is broken. This is where YOU get to be the bigger person. You forgive them. Now, with that being said, let me explain something. Forgiving them does NOT mean you have to still be friends or let them back into your life. It does not mean that you have to talk to, or even acknowledge them. This means that you are willing to release the burden of what they did to you. This is beneficial to your healing and mental and emotional wellbeing. It's all about YOU. It changes your outlook and lets you rewrite your story and take back your power that they have been stealing from you since they hurt you...the power to choose happiness, love, and trust.

When you forgive, you have the ability to walk into a new chapter of your life, free from the burdens that have built up in your life and weighed you down, and do you know what else? Those actions taught you lessons. They taught you the type of person that you don't want to be. They taught you the things you will no longer tolerate in your life, and that opens up all new opportunities for you to avoid those types of situations.

When you are no longer carrying that burden, it opens up an amazing array of new opportunities for you. When you are no longer dwelling on the actions of others, it attracts positive experiences to you, ones that you can remember with joy and cherish for a lifetime. Don't let the hate of others block you from these amazing experiences that you very much deserve.

Don't get me wrong, I still struggle with thinking about certain things people have done to me from time to time. When they come up, I thank my ego for trying to protect me, send it love, and gently let it go. For that is how I keep my own peace of mind throughout this journey.

So, the next time that someone wrongs you, forgive them, wish them well, send them love, pray for them, thank them for the experience, send them on their way, and let it go. For only then, will you truly be free to live a life of total happiness and the life that you truly deserve.

I hope that you enjoyed the reading. I look forward to hearing any techniques that you have used to help make forgiveness easier for you. Blessings and love to you all!